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About No Regrets:
How Burdensome Are Your Regrets? Take this quiz to find out
In answering each of the following statements, think about the events of your life. Circle the answer that best describes how you feel about them. Check your score at the end.
| 1. | True False | I did something in the past that still makes me cringe, and I feel ashamed whenever I think about it, which is more often than I would like. |
| 2. | True False | At one point in my life, my failure to say or do something had hurtful consequences that continue to bother me. |
| 3. | True False | I lost a great opportunity by not acting on it when I had the chance, and I have still not come to terms with that failure. |
| 4. | True False | I can't stop feeling hurt by the way someone treated me. |
| 5. | True False | Although I try not to, I envy one or more people for their looks, money, or accomplishments to the extent that it's a problem for me. |
| 6. | True False | I continue to feel sad, angry, or victimized as the result of a past occurrence, even though it was beyond my control at the time. |
| 7. | True False | I feel a gnawing sense of longing and regret because I'm getting older, and it often interferes with my enjoyment of the present. |
| 8. | True False | There is one person I will never, ever forgive. |
| 9. | True False | There are painful memories I'd rather not revisit, but that still seem to affect me in a negative way. |
| 10. | True False | There are things I did in my past that make me feel like a bad person. |
| 11. | True False | I am my own worst critic, and I deeply regret that I have not achieved what I'm capable of doing. |
| 12. | True False | It's too late to go back and repair what was done in the past. |
| 13. | True False | I can't forgive myself, because the person I hurt will never forgive me. |
| 14. | True False | I know I wasn't totally innocent, but I don't feel like I should be the one to apologize because I'm the one who got hurt the most. |
| 15. | True False | There are ghosts in my past that I cannot shake. |
SCORING
Add up the number of True answers you circled. If you circled:
| 11-15 | You are plagued by more pain, grief, blame, and discontent from your regrets than you'd probably like to admit. You are not alone. Many of us live with burdensome regrets that may be interfering with the enjoyment of our day-to-day life, restricting our future possibilities, and hampering our ability to experience joy. The good news is that once you learn to come to terms with these regrets and release them, you will experience a profound sense of relief and freedom. |
| 4-10 | Like most of us, you have shame-producing skeletons in your closet, and people, including yourself, whom you may not have forgiven. You are ready to see the lessons and gifts each of these burdensome regrets holds for you, and to take the action steps necessary to let them go. Once you do so, your regrets will serve as guides in your present and mentors for your future, leading you to happiness and away from torment. |
| 1-3 | You are a person who has learned to forgive yourself, forgive others, and move on with your life for the most part. Yet, a few nagging regrets remain. You will be amazed at how light, optimistic, and joyful you will feel when you let go of the last, unresolved regrets that weigh upon your intellect, emotions, and spirit. Once these regrets are gone, "should have," "if only," "could have," and "why me?" thoughts will no longer have the power to hurt you-now or in the future. |
| 0 | Congratulations! You are a remarkable person who has let go of your regrets to live richly and fully in the present |